The issue of Bereavement and Loss comes up in my practice on a fairly regular basis and so I decided to polish up this article that I wrote a while ago and re-present it as a series of blogposts.
In Part 1, I will look at bereavement in regards to the animals that share our lives. In later sections I will go on to explore Bereavement and Loss itself in more depth, including the 'Grief Cycle', followed by some steps that you might find helpful for anyone you know who is struggling to deal with a loss that they have experienced.
I recently met with a networking colleague of mine, Helen Lloyd, who is setting up a new business in Yatton called Pet Angels Parlour. You can also find her on Facebook. This is what Helen says about her work:
"Pets are part of the family, and just like family members,their passing needs to be treated with the same level of respect and care. Often, pet cremation is not handled with the sensitivity and compassionthat owner’s desire, which is why we do what we do."
Helen and I are both passionate about supporting people in times of bereavement and loss. For me this is not only around the death of a loved one (as you will see below there are many other forms of Loss that we can experience during our lifetime), though this is often the most common interpretation and it's certainly the focus of Helen's work.
I strongly believe that people also need support in the period of time leading up to their loved one's passing. In fact I recently shared a post on my Facebook page about 'Anticipatory Grief', which is a little talked-about and much misunderstood phenomenon.
Being a pet guardian can often bring with it another element, that of having to decide if it's time to have our animal put to sleep. This can be such a difficult and painful decision and carries with it a huge weight of responsibility, and yet it can actually be an amazing gift to our animal friends.
Even just living with an aging pet and allowing them to grow old gracefully can be a challenge, but also a privilege. If you find yourself in this situation please remember there is support available. You do not have to go through this alone. For example I can offer Reiki to you and your animal, to support them as they experience the challenges of their senior years - pain, stiffness, declining energy and health - and also to be there for you as a listening, non-judgemental, understanding ear, and to offer energy balancing which will help to keep you grounded and centred. I also use Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT, or 'tapping') which can help in dealing with emotional pain, limiting beliefs and fears around death and dying.
If this is something you would like to explore, please contact me for an initial, free consultation. There will be no obligation to make a booking, it's just an opportunity for you to ask any questions you might have and to see if what I offer might be a good fit for you and your animal. My contact details are:
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